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Our parents again!

The roles of a parent in the home goes beyond providing, food,shelter and the likes. As a parent you stand as Demi-gods to your children. Yes!

In this age we have found youths left to fend for themselves and struggle to get certain necessities
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O ye parents ! 


​It was just a fleeting thought, just for a moment, just that little second, “I wished I didn’t have parents”. 

Hmm,  a stupid thought right?  Why would anyone be so cruel?  
Sigh! I didn’t mean to even feel that way but somehow I do. “Why do I feel this way? Why do I just want to abscond from  home?” 
These are some of the thoughts that goes through the minds of children, teenagers,  even youths alike.

Growing up as much fun as it seems, isn’t easy. You know the saddest part of it?  Everyone thinks we don’t have worries just because we aren’t adults. 

As kids, we felt a whole lot of emotions which we couldn’t explain. We couldn’t relate them with anyone and we just felt they weren’t worth talking about (of course that must have been after a couple attempts of which we must have been shunned) .

    To tell the truth, my parents tried to do everything they felt were worth doing as parents for a child but still I felt totally neglected and completely out of touch with everyone. I was always at sea with my thoughts. No one to share them with. I had questions but I was too scared to ask.

Hmm! Sounds farmiliar?  
Maybe it was just me, maybe I was just too sensitive a child.
But truth be told, there was a point in my life I felt the need to talk. I just wanted to explode. Why does everything always have to be about them? They make it seem like it is always about us, but  looking deep into it you would see the truth in between the lines.

  If anything was to happen it still went back to being about the parents, but is it not my life?  Good or bad, am I not the one that would feel it the most?  

  

This ‘piece’ is to you all who grew up living in the shadows of your parents. You’re not alone! I understand how you feel.  No! You’re not crazy or unappreciative. Everything you feel is understandable.  I know that for those of us, the university is like an escape, a break through, a place where nothing at home matters,  a place to be yourself without thinking of who it’ll be affecting. We might make wrong decisions at some point, we might have slid through the wrong part but that’s okay. That’s what life is all about. 

    

Dear parents,  Ifeoma and Ebuka are 13  and 14 respectively. tyhey are teenagers but they think too. They have feelings. The get overwhelmed with life too. They might not be struggling out there with you but they know your struggle. They see the pain. They hear your silent whispers in the room. 
      But, they need you too.They need someone to assure them that the world out there isn’t that bad. That even when things get bad, you’ve got them.

     Yes, you brought Ngozi to this world,  someone brought you too. In your days you were regarded as adults as at 14. Most of you had gotten married as at 20. Why then don’t you trust us to be able to understand certain things. 

      Right from the beginning, parents just want to live their children’s life for them. They want to correct their own mistakes in the lifes of their children. They want to make sure your life is better. They try to bend you to suit ‘society’. They need to make sure you do not disgrace them. They need to make sure history does not repeat itself. Wow! 

      

   When all of this is on the minds of a parent, we find that instead of constructing and bringing up a dutiful diligent child like they want, they end up bringing up rebels!         
People!  Can we relate to this?   

Hmm!

At a point you just want to scream at them. You start to disregard their constant criticism. You’ve cried yourself to sleep a whole lot of times trying to wonder where you’ve gotten it wrong but now you don’t even care again! You’re tired. Let them let you be….what is it?..Is life so hard??  Hmm!

       

       Parents listen to your children. What are you so scared of? Get over your past and let your children live their own lifes.  Constant criticism only breaks a child and in the cause of breaking a child I hope you do not break their spirits.

Bring the children up in the way of the lord.

Inside-out 

The world has evolved so much that we all hide under the cloak of the modern era, we’ve forgotten the rules of life, and we prefer to go with the wind and tides of time.
Well, what am I trying to point out here?  
I’m simply bringing to our focus, the one big title; ‘virginity ‘ Oh! surprised? Don’t be, we all think about these things so why not talk about it?
So, If we have virgins in the house, say ‘Yaaay’. (A couple of ‘yaays’ I’ll be getting I know 😏) Also if you have never watched  pornography or even touched an opposite sex in a sexual manner, let me see you wink… Hmmm, anyone? I didn’t think so either.
Big question of the day, “are we really pure in the actual sense?” Some of us hide behind the masks of being virgins,  just because their hymen are still very much intact. Most virgins are virgins by virtue of the hymen. Yes! Many of us have forgotten the real implications of being a virgin, we have forgotten what it’s really about, we have judged others just because we also haven’t been caught in the dark of our own sins. We have wagged fingers at others, creating a shallow wall  of ‘imperfect perfections’, acting self righteous when we aren’t even worthy to be called chaste.
Virginity means ‘without sexual experience’ in short terms. That statement encompasses a whole lot more than ‘not just having sex’. You all know what I’m talking about right?  
I applaud all virgins out there, it’s an awesome thing to be one, especially if it’s for the right reasons that you are, the  reason which is for the sake of keeping God’s commandment. I appreciate all you who have the conscience to stay chaste, it’s very commendable I must say, especially in this time and age. 
But, note! To all you who are struggling to just be virgins for the sake of self appraisal and for all the wrong reasons in the world, take a self examination from deep within today as to why you are what you are.  
Let us stop deceiving ourselves; virginity is not a password to heaven, physical virginity doesn’t mean your heart is clean and pure. If one does not show love and compassion for his neighbour, then your virginity might just be pointless. 
Let’s not just be physical virgins, let us be true, pure and chaste of heart. Let us not judge anymore; help a sister or brother falling in the pits of sexual immorality, you are no better just because you haven’t done it!  
We have seen that God cares so much about the intentions as well as the actions (proverbs 16:2)


“All a man’s ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the LORD.”
This is to reach out to all of us who have gotten carried away and have just been trying to keep up appearances, let us do the right thing today, both from within and outwardly . 
Talk to someone today, have a change of heart and weigh your intentions to your actions.
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Balancing the scales

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